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Growing Down



Have you ever watched a kid play? Who hasn’t.

Always active,happy,smiling running ,easily distracted and doing something new every day and every second.

They keep on doing different uncanny things that might amuse,irritate or anger people around them.

But they don’t stop,if they have to try they have to try. If they want to put your phone in their milk they will,they want to touch all they keys on your keyboard they will,they want to run around in circles they will.

They like experimenting,they do what makes them happy and not because they might be good at it or become good at it.

Then ,they grow up. At every step society teaches them one thing “Focus”. Focus on what you are good at,focus on what you could be good at,focus on one thing.

Now they do things to be good at it rather than because it makes them happy. Well nothing wrong in it, that’s how you become successful in the society.

SO many things to do
The worlds beautiful ,don' stop yourself. Be a kid ,Grow down

But the question I have is: “why do we suddenly start to feel the need to focus when we grow up?”. Why can Kids be Kids and adults need to focus?.When we look at mother nature ,we are still kids. We still need to learn so why this sudden urge to leave everything else and focus on some.

Yes focus is important, but then why focus on one ,why can’t  focus be on all?

When a person is good at one thing we call him successful or smart but if he/she is good at many ,we get the likes of Da vinci and Michelangelo.

So why do we ask people to focus on one thing,why cant we bring about a change where it will be expected for people to focus  on many?.

If a kid can be expected to learn to walk and identify shapes and colors why are the expectations so low when we grow up?

Why can’t we be more like kids? Looking out of the glass window and running after every pretty butterfly we see , once in a while?

Be the guy/gal with finger in every pie,do everything you want to do once in a while. Stop focussing on just one thing,you may be missing out on soo much fun and experiences by not doing other things.

Don’t tell me you don’t want to sing when you see a great singer,your feets don’t tap when you see someone dancing,you don’t get the urge/wish to paint once in a while or you don’t feel the need to capture the beautiful scenery in your camera.You may not be good at them,you may suck badly in them,you may be the worst singer ,dancer, poet ever to have existed or will exist but..think like a child,would you have given up? Would you not have at least tried? just for the heck of it,just to see how it feels. So go ahead try.

If you are good at your Job..my question would be what else are you good at? Do people really like being good at only one thing or doing only one thing?

Thats not natural,absolutely not. Look at Kids..can they be made to do only one thing?

So here is the time to grow down a little,think like a kid. Do something more,even if society tells you you cant be good at everything …whats the harm in trying?

Do what makes you happy once in a while!! Be a Kid



2 responses to “Growing Down”

  1. Indro Avatar

    you did not consider the fact that when you are kids you have not experienced a lot of stuff. so you are open to trying till the time you realize somethings don’t interest you.
    as you grow up you learn Darwin’s theory of natural selection. Sachin realizes that if he tries to top the secondary examination and also get into the Indian team simultaneously then he might just end with a first division and a place in Maharashtra B team.

    1. madhurchadha Avatar

      I never said you do not have to make choices or focus on things, my point was this excessive focus on being good at everything you enjoy…..suppose Sachin really liked playing cricket but realized he sucked at it…Should he stop ?
      Also in your example, sachin went for cricket exactly because he loved teh game so much…he decided to take a plunge..

      What I wanted to highlight was the excessive focus of people on returns. and at some level social sanction
      Also another point was lack of inquisitiveness , you need to try something to know you do not like it..people stop themselves way too early. How many people pick up a painting brush just to know how to feels like now..they might enjoy it but they do not citing..I am not good at it
      Sculpture, music, reading a book, drawing…dance….you don’t have to be good is my point.
      Yes there are people who try to do different things, have different experiences but the number might be less…

      Another point I highlighted was that you can focus on multiple things, yes not everything is possible but somethings are. Eg: At a client location I met a person who not only worked full time as a techie but also focussed on his love for skydiving…he was good at both ,….
      Albert Einstein..Brilliant physicist + A very good Violin player

      And yes we have our Michael Angelos and Da vinci’s
      So my point is…be a kid…you are attracted to something…Go for it

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